Saturday I had a great time having lunch with a friend from church who I greatly admire. Brian was very gracious to babysit so I could have a few hours out. I greatly enjoyed it and came home feeling refreshed and renewed.
So when I arrived home I was ready to tell Brian all about our conversation at lunch and how great he was for watching the kids. But Brian was busy and seemed somewhat out of sorts. I thought maybe he wanted to be by himself. Then he told me what he had been doing while I was out. He had vacuumed the entire house. He had watched the boys. And now he was working on filing his taxes. I think he wanted me to recognize how much work he had put in even though when I got home he appeared to be at his leisure.
This made me think. There are many, many times when Brian comes home and I want to parade him around the house to show him what has been done that day. And tell him how many times the boys got into trouble or how many times I changed a dirty diaper. This event made me realize that when I feel grumpy because Brian (or no one) has noticed all my hard work it isn't just because I am a woman.
So next time I want to tell my hard-working husband everything I have done during the day the first few minutes he walks in the door I will wait and see if he notices himself. If not, maybe I can just chalk it up to a job well done and go on with my life. Apparently this is part of staying at home with munchkins.
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"If not, maybe I can just chalk it up to a job well done and go on with my life." Well put. Ouch. You make it sound so simple. Maybe I'll just call Amy and tell HER what I did. :)
I totally understand that feeling of wanting your work to be recognized. I do think it would serve me well to congratulate myself and move on instead of having an attitude or being disappointed if it isn't notice by others.
You hit the nail on the head. I always am excited for Jack to come home when I have been busy around the house. If he doesn't notice right away, I always want to point out this and that, when I should really just let him rest. You are right. That is just part of the job!
Glad I'm not the only one... (:
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